Don’t rush yourself
When ever you want to let go of a habit that isn’t serving you anymore, it’s a death process.
That habit served you so well once! It takes time to grieve the loss of the habit before you can fully and truly let it go and embody a new habit (whether the habit is a belief, a feeling or a physical action) So don’t rush it. You know where you want to go so give yourself the time and space to slowly but surely move toward it.
How this may look:
This may look like, first becoming aware on how it has served you up until now. Then, give yourself the time and space to become more and more aware everytime you do it, without having to change it right away, but just getting aware of how it’s truly effecting you now. Allow yourself to slowly start seeing how its no longer serving you.
Once we see how something isn’t serving us anymore, we have the tendency to wanne change it right away and never look back. All tho that might sometimes work, more often then not, we’ll try, and we fail. Then we try again, and fail again, and we do that over and over and over again. We start beating ourselves up, start losing trust in ourselves and/or we’re starting to feel inadequate or as if there’s something wrong with us.
But in truth, it’s just that you need to give yourself time to grief and let the idea fully land that you’re gonna say goodbye to this habit that has served you so well in the past!
So if you give yourself time to become more aware and grief. Realize what it truly means to let that habit go. What your life would look like without it. All tho letting go of it might mostly bring good things, you’re also losing something that was your “safety net” for so long. And it’s hard to say goodbye to something like that. So over time, you’ll get a more and more integrated understanding within yourself, on why you want to quite and that it’s real. That you truly want this.
Side note:
The reason why we tend to rush it, can come from many different things. But one of the big ones can be from growing up. Where, you, feeling your emotions, was something that needed to be rushed -> “are you still not over it?” “Are you still sad about that?” “Get over it” “life goes on” etc.
We live in a world where everything goes fast, faster, faster, but our emotions is something we can’t rush. We need to sit with it and feel it all the way through. And sometimes it pops up at random times and that’s okay. Those are the moments where you either want to fall back into the old habit or actually do. And that’s okay. You just needed to see again what kinda effect this habit has on you now. It’s a journey of death and grief, you can’t rush grief. Just keep your eyes on the price and know you’ll get there in time. You’ll naturally move there the more you integrate the understanding of you wanting something better for yourself